From Zoom to Real Life: How an Online Support Group Sparked a Lasting Friendship
Support groups provide a safe space to share frustrations, grief, and moments of joy. In the process, participants often form deep, lasting connections.
Julie Warder and Tammy Larrondo discovered just that when they met virtually through Duet’s Caring for Aging Parents support group.
Tammy made a lasting impression on Julie, who had been a caregiver for both of her parents living with dementia.
“Tammy showed up with laughter and a bright outlook. It just brightened my day to see her. For me, Tammy was just one of those people that I felt a connection with.”
For Tammy, the group helped her cope with the overwhelming responsibilities of caring for her mother, including preparing meals, feeding, and bathing her. The welcoming environment offered her the reassurance and acceptance she needed. But Julie stood out.
“Julie was and still is the kindest person I have encountered during this important journey I embarked on,” Tammy said. “Julie made herself available to reach out to her whenever I needed, which was so very kind of her.”
Though Julie lived in Arizona and Tammy in New Jersey, the friendship they developed through the group became strong enough to span the miles. After Julie’s mother passed away, she planned a trip to visit friends and family and included a stop to meet Tammy in person at a small café.
“We had the place to ourselves, so it was perfect,” Julie shared. “It just feels good to finally hug someone that you have shared your emotions with for years. Tammy had also lost her mom, so we spoke of how we were each experiencing our grief and how we were planning to move on.”
“It was magical,” Tammy said.
“I am so very grateful our paths crossed. I hope she remains in my life forever.”
Julie reflected on the depth of connection that can grow even in virtual spaces.
“People question being able to form bonds in virtual groups, but you absolutely do. People are so supportive of each other. You look forward to seeing each other and staying caught up on what is happening with their loved ones.”
In addition to Caring for Parents, Duet offers a variety of support groups, including:
- Alzheimer’s and Dementia
- General Caregiving
- Grief
- Parkinson’s
- LGBTQ+
- Spanish Language
About Sandra Pedicini
Sandra Pedicini is a Duet volunteer caregiver mentor and writes about aging and caregiving issues. She is a former newspaper journalist and works as a corporate communications manager.
